In actual hair news - urm, it's doing it's thing. I've gone back to the weekly TST, which I'm making fatter so that it takes less time to do, and then putting them up. Still DC'ing twice a week. Have fallen deeply in like with TraderJoe's Replenish Conditioner. Back on the daily MT train. Still trying to find the perfect salt mixture.
Yeah, my hair is being pretty boring, actually. It's growing, and it's happy, and really, isn't that what I want? *lol* Calm seas really can be dreadful - I totally understand why people drift from the boards - after a while, even hairmadness gets old.
The next - experiment - I'm going to be working on is a restorative oil. I've been reading (back to back too) about far too many oils that seem to actually help protect/restore keratin bonds in the hair - and now, I'm itching to combine a bunch of them, and start using them in a castor oil base for sealing my hair. I'm trying to keep my ends young, basically. I need to start keeping a list. :lol:
Lots of mindpuke after this...... ;)
I've been thinking, a lot lately, trigged by a "Why Don't We Grow to Terminal" thread, about what is given and what is needed when it comes to the long hair growing process. I've been bouncing all around the hairboards I'm a member on, and - I've started to consciously notice some things that - have just been clicking with me, and giving me those 'Ahh.' moments.
I'm not a patient person, by any sense of the word. One of my earliest poems was about how much I hate waiting - so, you can rather imagine that the hairgrowing process isn't - well, it doesn't move nearly as fast as I would like it to. But, to me, that's a given. I haven't lost weight as fast as I would like to, either - but I wouldn't consider stopping doing the things that I know need to be done in order to try to get there faster - that doesn't even make any sort of logical sense.
But, it seems like when it comes to hair - people are either in denial to what needs to be done, or simply aren't willing to do it.
And I can respect that - there are certain lines that we all draw - certain things that we just will not do, for whatever reason. But, at the same time - I don't know - is it expecting too much of people for them to acknowledge that some of the responsibility for their progress - or lack thereof - rests solely in their hands, due to the choices that they do, or don't make?
Maybe it is - I mean, in the wider world, there is a distinct lack of personal responsibility for anything - major or minor.
You can't solely lay the blame on genetics - in all personal honesty, I think that genetically, there's a bell curve when it comes to hair, and it's the rare and far inbetween person who genetically can't grow, just as it's the rare and far inbetween person who can grow 12 ft of hair - it just doesn't happen that often. Inbetween those two rare ones, though, there is - well, most of the rest of us.
And in all truth, the reason that the rest of us don't have the hair we want - whether this is accepted, or not, is because we aren't doing the right things with it - we don't want to make the sacrifices that would allow our hair to grow, because it's not part of our meme.
I can't tell you how many times I've read complaints - bitterness - downright 'I'm just tolerating this' attitude towards protective styles - even though, 90% of the people you poll - even those that hate them - will admit, that yeah, protective styles are the sure shot when it comes to retaining growth.
On the other hand, you have another group, that actively celebrates and explores protective styling - that searches for new and creative ways to hide their hair, and get their enjoyment and pleasure from exploring what their hair can do, besides lay down their back.
Maybe it's because of the cultural concept that black women can't grow hair, that has triggered the attitude that unless everyone around you can see how much hair you have, the fact that you have long hair doesn't 'really' count, and you can't possibily be 'enjoying' your hair.
It reminds me of the difference between praying in public, and praying in private, and the root motives and urges between the two. I've never been that public of a person, really, and having something that - that is an open secret is a delightful concept/feeling for me.
*sigh* I don't know. I'm just rambling along, trying to understand the reasonings behind the wool. It's a hard thing, to get to the root of an attitude - esp. when it's not consisously adopted, it just 'is'.
Time gives wisdom - I'll have to come back in a few years, and see if I better understand why people are - resistant - to the easy way of doing things. *lol* Ah, I guess it depends on the person, as to whether they see it as easy.
Hrm. I can't really collect my thoughts the way I want to - they are just feelings and ideas and questions bouncing around my head right now, and I had to get them out - usually writing helps me clarify what I'm thinking - but I'm jsut standing in front of a wall of puzzlement.
As my husband often tells me - 'Kiya, not everyone is as logical as you are!' - which, puzzles me even more, because isn't the logical way usually the easiest way? I dunno.
Bah. This entry feels like a lot of churn and froth, so I'm just gonna cut it short now. Maybe I'll have something less nebulous on the subject, later.
